In every relationship, no matter how strong and healthy, there is a time of a crisis. It can be caused by different reasons, such as lack of attention, time, or passion. Regardless of what the reasons are, it is good to focus on possible solutions and try to overcome the difficult time together. Sometimes even therapy is necessary, but in the majority of the crises, communication is the key to overcome the problems. If the partners articulate their needs and areas that could be improved, the success is close. Below you can find some tips to bring some fresh air to the relationship and tighten the bonds.
Take up new activities together
It’s normal when the partners have entirely different areas of interest. What’s more, it helps the relationship to develop – could you imagine your partner doing the same things as you’re keen on? That would ruin the possibility of learning from each other and exploring new areas of life. On the other hand, developing mutual interests and hobbies may be the key to success in the time of crisis. Psychology confirms that doing something together makes people closer to each other and enhances the feeling of belongingness. It’s good to make use of it and try to take up various activities together, for example playing board games, doing sport, singing or doing creative work – it all depends on your and your partners’ preferences. The theme doesn’t matter – what counts is the time spent together.
Spice up your sex life
It’s no secret that sex is one of the most crucial aspects of any romantic relationship. In the beginning, the sex drive is usually powerful – not only because of the mutual fascination but also simply due to our hormones – oxytocin and endorphins produced in our brain enhance the sexual needs. However, over time, the intimate aspect of the relationship may fade away. This may be one of the hidden reasons for a current crisis, so it’s worth taking care of this field. How to do it? Of course, you should start by talking to your partner about your preferences and suggest any diversity you’d like to introduce. Remember that both partners have to be 100 percent comfortable with what happens between them in bed. There are various things to choose from, for instance, sex toys. This is a vast category to explore, but you can browse through it according to the preferences. One of the options is trying to use realistic sex dolls, which can create an impression of an exciting threesome without actually engaging other people. Another possibility to make your sex more fascinating is to dress up in various costumes and make a roleplay. You may choose to be a policeman/policewoman, a nurse, a doctor, and much more! The costumes are also available online, so you don’t have to move around.
Make a trip
Escaping the daily routine is always a great way to unwind and broaden the perspective on things. It can be useful also in terms of improving the relationship. Of course, you don’t need to buy tickets for a two-week all-inclusive holiday to get some rest – sometimes it’s enough only to take a weekend trip out of town. The place doesn’t matter that much – it’s vital to have some time just for the two of you, go for a walk, slow down, eat meals, or drink coffee without any time pressure. Those simple activities can become meaningful when they’re done mindfully. You don’t need to come up with any crazy holiday ideas like rock climbing or scuba diving – sometimes, the simpler, the better. You can discover a new side of your partner and explore your problems together. Escaping for a few days is extremely important when you have children or are deeply involved in family life, which generally doesn’t allow you to get away from it all.
Cultivate memories
Some people say that a relationship truly ends when memories are the only thing that keeps it going. However, it can be exciting to explore the past and bring back feelings from this period. It’s a great idea to spend some time together on restoring old photos, stories, and messages. Souvenirs have great power and can make people rejoice. If you fancy, you can make a unique ‘souvenir album’ with your partner or create an online folder for flicking through them. Having done that, you can try to repeat the same scenarios after some years in a relationship – for example, a date in the park or an Italian dinner eaten together. In this way, the fire will be quickly reignited!
Remember that finding a perfect way to bring fresh air to your relationship is entirely up to you! Every case is different, and sometimes it’s not enough to diversify your sex life or go out of town. If the problem doesn’t seem to disappear despite you both try to solve it, it may be necessary to choose a therapist and go for therapy for partners. Whatever happens, remember – it’s all about the journey, not the destination: the effort is what counts the most!
